It was D-Day in the Stoner household today.  Hubby had appointment with neurologist and a cat scan.  The evaluation, results and prognosis is grim.  Full blown dementia.  Untreatable and will only get worse.  I kind of knew that.  Doesn’t really call for rocket science knowledge or wisdom to know someone can no longer remember.  He seemed to take it in stride, but I really don’t think he realizes what exactly we were talking about.  Thank goodness he has a super doctor!  They are helping me by having a social worker get in touch with me to assist us in finding a caregiver that can come in to give me respite time.  A caregiver that will be there most of the time rather than an agency that just willy nilly sends whoever is available.  Surprisingly the doctor doesn’t care for “agencies”.  He says the people aren’t paid like they should be and thus he feels they are not really entrenched in their job and really don’t care about their clients.  I will go with whatever this doctor recommends.  I am thanking my lucky stars we have him!  Last night I finished this Christmas Sampler which will be a part of my Last Minute Holiday Gifts Workshop.  Once I get all this paperwork and arranging the household, etc., I will be able to work on tutorials… some will be free, and some will have a small, nominal cost.  Please stay tuned…I know I have been promising for a while now, but my home situation has been rather challenging lately.


12 thoughts on “D-Day

  1. Hi Pam, that’s a pretty shadow box. I made one once after we went to Finnland to a world dog show. I will post a pic of it on facebook. Im glad you have a Dr to work with you and your hsb now. I will cont to pray for you both. Ruth

  2. Hi Pam,I just wanted to tell you how very beautiful your shadow box is. For some reason, my anti-virus is blocking me from doing so on your blog. I also found your screen card using Ornamental Pine to be quite lovely. I really admire the brave face you are wearing, in spite of what is happening with your hubs. Sounds like his doc is compassionate, with both his patients and their families, though, which is truly fortunate. Looking forward to seeing more of your talent in the future! Sincerely, Debbie Date: Wed, 3 Dec 2014 19:15:57 +0000 To: cherrytartt2@hotmail.com

  3. I love the sampler you did!   My heart goes out to you.  My husband has “mild cognitive impairment.”  Some days it is not mild.  He also has 80-90% hearing loss and the best hearing aids we can get. .  but even that doesn’t work as well as people think it would.  It is such a terrible diagnosis for all involved.  Take care of yourself as best you can, and I will add you to my prayer list.   Carol

  4. Oh I’m so sorry to hear that and I will keep you in my prayers. I saw your beautiful Holiday Home card on Pinterest and love it! Would you happen to have information on products used and techniques? This is the look my customer and I were searching for, I love it. I also, love your winter frame and hope you will have some info for sale on that as well. Take care. nm

  5. Pamela I love your work. Came across your site when I saw a card cased from your collection by Carol King in Perth Austrailia. She was inspired and so am I. I wish to send you a hug. You’re going to need it on this journey ahead. My family lived with my husband’s father who succumbed to Alzheimer’s and it is indeed a lonely and trying trip, but your attitude and brave face will get you through this. Remember the happy times and not the frustrating ones, gather your friends about you, and keep your faith. It sounds like your doctor is wise beyond his years and will do right by both you and your husband. Hugz and best wishes to you both.

  6. It’s funny, as I’m getting older so are my family members. And some of them are facing memory issues. We have the daughter of a friend watching my dad during the daytime (she has healthcare training.) Occasionally we need to hire someone from an agency. The agency we use tries to send the same person, and they have always been very caring. We also have two labs, so the person who comes has to like dogs too. All this to say, some agency people are wonderful. Caring for other is done out of love, but remember to take breaks to refresh and have the energy to remain patient. Take care-

  7. Love and a big hug from me, may you take strength from your memories and solitude with your crafting. Love your sampler that I found on Pintrest. Rosalie, Australia.

  8. I am sorry to read about your struggles and the recent diagnosis of your husband. It is sad to see someone you love deteriorate and not be themself. I would be very interested in purchasing your directions for the beautiful blue-green Christmas Sampler you created. It is exquisite! Please let me know if that is possible, as I understand your time with your husband is precious! I look forward to hearing from you and wish you many joyful blessings at this time of the year. Susan

  9. I’m not sure how to reply as I see this post is from 2014. Whatever has transpired since then, I want you to know I will still pray for you in any situation at this time, I will be praying for you. God bless and keep you in His care!

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